Does death kill ego, hatred, and any other forms of misgivings?
For a moment, I thought it did. No... Not really. Between two beings in a tensed
relationship, it proves who won and who had the last laugh. Under the pretext
of homage, the ego-clad victor stands tall towering over the dead, registering
the fact that he has won the race of time. Of course, it is only a temporary
relief. But then, we are all ingrained in accumulating brownie points through
temporary aspects, be it measures, relief, or victories; such a temporal object
the human is. We go behind all things ephemeral: beauty, fame, money, power and
whatever falls in the line of that trajectory. Well, what else can we expect?
There is but one thing that we do which is indeed anti-temporal. And that is
dying.
If one believes in after birth, then even that is temporal. What
does this one important act of mankind signify? Because I do not believe in
after-birth, I assume that it hardly signifies anything to the dead. For those
who are left to survive the death, it is loss, both monetary and non-monetary. But
then, death also bestows the survivor with wealth, power, and the usual
accompanying suspects. Death brings out what was never said before—of the dead
and the things surrounding them. With matters concerning benefits, at times, it
brings more estrangements and more misgivings.
Of course, when the death has nothing to do with power,
money, and fame, it is pain. It pains from deep inside to come to terms with
the vacuum and the desolation created by the dead’s absence. Our heart cringes even
with the very thought about the loss of someone who filled your time and senses
with joy… like the loss of your very own progeny.
All said, even these after effects are ephemeral. Time stands a victor, gobbling up even the sorrow that death creates. Don't you forget the fallible human memory that plays the partner in crime with time.
Leave alone a situation of death... Even if there is a near-death situation, and if an opportunity for reconciliation presents itself, would we not think about disengaging our ego and come forth to express our forgiveness and be uber-human about it? If that can be done, can we not imagine such a hypothetical situation, be large-hearted, shed our hatred, and look to work in harmony with folks whom we cannot even stand the sight of? That one act of kindness would open up so much more possibilities for collaborative living. If not anything, it would, at the least, let us be at peace with ourselves.
And certainly, next to work, sufferance is the deliverance of mankind.
